It’s that time of the year again. Just days before a New Year starts, when we often struggle to make resolutions to become better in the next year than we were before.

I previously shared with you a Couple’s New Year’s Resolutions Worksheet to help you work on those goals for the new year, and gave you 9 ideas to get started. Now here are 7 more ideas for resolutions to put into practice in your marriage this year.

If you are looking for some actionable ideas to make your intimate relationship better, I offer you these 7 New Year resolution ideas.

As we march into this new year, let’s put our relationships on center stage and take charge with some stellar resolutions. Picture this: spending more quality time together, dialing down on social media chaos, dialing up on intimate time, diving into new hobbies, strengthening bonds with friends and family, fostering good habits, and, above all, taking a breather for better mental health. Here’s our roadmap for a fulfilling year ahead.

1. Spending quality time: More than just clock hours

Ever felt like you’re both ships passing in the night? This year, let’s make ‘spending more time together’ our anthem. The focus is not on clocking in extra hours but on making every moment count. And make it great time! Whether it’s cozy movie nights, cooking together, or even taking a walk, these snippets of togetherness go a long way in solidifying our bond.

2. Social media detox: Breaking the bad habit

Those little devices in our hands have a way of stealing moments, don’t they? Let’s call out the bad habit of letting social media invade our couple time. Time for a detox! Setting boundaries on screen time while we’re together means more real conversations, more genuine laughs, and definitely more eye contact.

3. Embracing new hobbies: Starting an adventure together

Ever thought about starting something new together? Maybe it’s painting, salsa dancing, or even trying out a cooking class. Starting a new hobby as a couple isn’t just about the hobby itself; it’s about discovering new sides of each other and sharing the excitement of learning together.

4. Strengthening ties: Friends and family edition

Our support system outside our twosome is precious, right? This year, let’s nourish those connections. Plan some quality time with friends and family—whether it’s a game night, a brunch, or a hike. These moments not only enrich our lives but also add layers of strength to our relationship.

5. Cultivating good habits: Because little things matter

Good habits are the building blocks of a healthy relationship. From communicating openly and expressing gratitude to sharing responsibilities and giving each other space, these small habits contribute significantly to a strong and thriving partnership.

6. Stress reduction: A breather for mental health

Life can get chaotic, and stress often sneaks in uninvited. This year, let’s focus on reducing stress together. Whether it’s practicing mindfulness, going for walks, or simply having a chill evening with no plans, dedicating time to unwind promotes better mental health for both of us.

7. Making time for lovemaking: The essence of intimacy

In the whirlwind of daily routines and commitments, sometimes the intimacy between partners takes a backseat. This year, let’s vow to prioritize this aspect of our relationship by making time for lovemaking. Intimacy isn’t just physical; it’s about connection, vulnerability, and shared emotions. Here’s why nurturing this part of our relationship is crucial and how we can weave it into our resolutions.

Now that we’ve laid out these resolutions, it’s time to dig deeper into each one and explore how they can truly shape our journey together for the better.

Spending quality time: Beyond minutes and hours

Spending time together doesn’t just mean being in the same physical space. Actively engage—put away distractions and having real conversations. Consider setting aside specific ‘together time’ in your schedules. Whether it’s a weekly date night or a daily 20-minute catch-up, these moments create a foundation of shared experiences and closeness.

Exploring together: Trying new things

Exploring new experiences together can reignite the spark. Be open to trying new things that might enhance your intimacy. This could range from reading a book on intimacy together, trying different techniques, or even engaging in activities that foster closeness.

Embracing spontaneity: Letting it flow naturally

While scheduling intimate moments is valuable, don’t discount the magic of spontaneity. Allowing room for those unplanned moments of connection can be just as important. Letting things unfold naturally adds an element of surprise and excitement.

Nurturing emotional intimacy: The bedrock of physical connection

Remember, emotional intimacy lays the groundwork for a more satisfying physical connection. Cultivate emotional closeness through meaningful conversations, shared experiences, and acts of kindness. A deeper emotional bond often translates into a more fulfilling physical connection.

Social media detox: Unplugging for connection

Let’s be honest; our phones can be relationship intruders. So, let’s set some ground rules. Designate certain hours or zones as ‘no-phone zones’ and stick to them. Having face-to-face conversations without the distraction of screens can create deeper connections and pave the way for authentic communication.

Exploring new hobbies: Adventure awaits

Trying something new together isn’t just about the activity itself—it’s about the journey. Whether it’s gardening, learning a musical instrument, or even trying out a new sport, stepping into uncharted territory together brings excitement and helps us grow as a couple.

Strengthening ties: Friends and family bonding

Our relationships with friends and family are like treasures; they add depth and support to our lives. Plan regular outings, game nights, or even simple gatherings to nurture these connections. Strong outside bonds often strengthen our core relationship.

Cultivating good habits: Small steps, big impact

Good habits are the unsung heroes of lasting relationships. It’s not about grand gestures but about consistency in small actions. From saying ‘thank you’ to actively listening and respecting boundaries, these habits create an atmosphere of trust and harmony.

Stress reduction: Building a sanctuary together

In the chaos of daily life, finding moments to unwind is crucial. Consider activities like meditation, evening strolls, or simply cuddling up on the couch and disconnecting from the world’s noise. These moments of peace contribute significantly to our mental well-being.

Now, as we embark on this journey, remember that these resolutions aren’t commandments etched in stone. They’re gentle nudges toward a more fulfilling relationship. The key is in making them our own and infusing our lives with more love, laughter, and understanding.

Understanding intimacy: It’s more than just physical

Intimacy encompasses emotional, intellectual, and physical closeness. It’s the glue that binds partners beyond the day-to-day activities. When we talk about making time for lovemaking, it’s not just about the act itself; it’s about fostering a deeper connection, enhancing communication, and understanding each other on a profound level.

The importance of physical intimacy: Benefits beyond the bedroom

Physical intimacy has numerous benefits for a relationship. It releases oxytocin, the ‘cuddle hormone,’ promoting bonding and reducing stress. Additionally, it enhances feelings of security and trust between partners. A fulfilling physical connection often translates into a more harmonious and emotionally connected relationship.

Making time for intimacy: A resolution that counts

Incorporating intimacy into our resolutions isn’t just about penciling it into our schedules; it’s about creating an environment where it naturally thrives. It’s about prioritizing this aspect of our relationship and acknowledging its significance in our lives.

Prioritizing lovemaking: Making room for connection

Carve out moments for intimacy in your routine. It might not always be spontaneous, but scheduling intimate moments allows you to look forward to them. Whether it’s a designated ‘date night’ or even setting aside specific times during the week, creating these spaces for connection is crucial.

Communicating needs: Opening up the dialogue

Communication is key. Express your desires and preferences openly and respectfully. Encourage your partner to do the same. Understanding each other’s needs and desires fosters a more fulfilling and satisfying intimate connection.

Creating a sensual environment: Setting the mood

Transforming your space into a haven of intimacy can significantly impact your experience. Dim the lights, play soft music, or set the scene that feels most comfortable and inviting for both of you. These little touches can elevate the experience and create a more relaxed and intimate ambiance.

The Journey Ahead: Our Shared Adventure

So, here’s to a year brimming with cherished moments, laughter echoing through the walls, and the warmth of a connection that only grows stronger with each passing day. Here’s to us, making this year the most memorable and love-filled one yet!

Originally published December 31, 2016.