Couples Sex Therapy Retreats: Clinical Help One Couple at a Time
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Couples Sex Therapy Retreats: Private Get-Away for One Couple At a Time

What is a couples sex retreat?*

Our couples sex retreats are private affairs. Now, from the privacy of your own home, or available in a major city near you, you and your partner can participate in a marriage intimacy retreat weekend with a skilled sex therapist. This couples sex retreat focuses on helping you to positively impact your sexual difficulties and is personally tailored to your needs alone.  This intensive form of therapy allows couples over a weekend to get to the heart of the matter.

What questions are addressed in a couples sex retreat?

  • Why isn't sex working well?
  • What practical education do we need to move forward?
  • Are their hidden phobias, traumas or withheld resentments that are blocking desire?


It also helps couples learn to initiate and refuse sex more gently and effectively.

How will our clinical sexologist work during the couples sex retreat?

Your sexologist's job is to increase your ability to talk frankly about sex, to explore areas of discomfort around sex, and to correct misinformation about sexuality, and the nature of sexual difficulties.

  • Are even affectionate gestures feeling forced and unnatural?
  • Are you "best of friends" but not really lovers anymore?
  • Have you asked yourself: "How do I find a sex therapist near me?"

Try a private sex retreat for couples!

It's now easier than ever! Find a quiet space in your home or choose a getaway. Schedule your online time. After completing an extensive online assessment, you will work with one experienced licensed clinician who is especially trained in sex therapy. The entire weekend will be devoted to helping your relationship. Tackle the toughest relationship issues. Take the space to really get to the bottom of why you aren't connecting the way you want to...

When was the last time you tried to improve your physical intimacy?

If you are coping with a sexless marriage, don't manage it alone. We've heard wives say:  "I don't want my husband to touch me anymore." or husbands tell us:  "my wife doesn't want me sexually." Other wives are eager for sex but complain: "my husband prefers his hand over me."

Spend a weekend with a board-certified sex therapists to ENHANCE YOUR CONNECTION.


Dr. K or Angela Voegele

Dr. K has practiced sex therapy for over 30 years.

Angele Voegele is a board-certified sex therapist

Couples Sex Therapy Retreats aren’t simply education, but real therapy to help you put your sexual relationship into perspective. We work with all couples in a sexless marriage (defined as "sex less than 10 times a year"…), from newlyweds to couples approaching retirement. Maturity changes but doesn’t kill sexual interest in couples.

We'll take a serious look at:

"Why won't my husband touch me?"

Explore why:

"My wife doesn't want sex."

If your relationship is without sex, nothing will magically change it around without help. Let us help. Other couples face the challenge of hyper-sexuality (sex addiction) where sex is compulsive for one or both partners, but without the pleasure and connection.  

Goals for the couples sex therapy retreat

We’ll move you beyond thinking about sexuality as a repetitive stagnant act and help you both to revive or enliven your sexual selves, for a better personal as well as marital life.

Many couples never end up divorcing because of sexual problems. They just stay miserable. This week-end is designed to change all that.

Give us a week-end, and we’ll change around the way you think about your body, your sexuality, and your partner. Our couples sex therapy retreats begin with our own unique assessment of your sexual relationship through an online assessment tool.

Life changing, earth shattering, amazing changes --- I am not kidding when I say this absolutely hands down saved our marriage, saved our lives... I was so unhappy and I am looking at the world differently, knowing I have a partner with me in this life that I once felt so alone in... We have a lot of work to do -- but we are both committed to this..."

Why am I in a sexless marriage?

For many couples, it is easier to complete and online instrument about sexuality. We ask that you don't consult one another. The goal is to really reflect on what’s working in your intimate life and what’s not.

   Initiation:  Who suggests sex and how do they do it? Is it seductive? Pragmatic? Angry?

•   Courting:  What are the courting rituals you each take part in? Have they fallen the way of the buffalo?

•   Kissing 101:  What’s a great kiss? How do each of you kiss, and does it please your partner?

•   Hygiene:  For some couples, this is a conversation that is not undertaken seriously, but should be. We make it easy with our 1-2-3 intervention.

•   Know My Genitals:  Do you know about sexual biology? How arousal works? What actually happens in orgasm? You’ll get a “Guide” that will make all that fun!

•   Pills and Power: “The Little Blue Pill” is handed out without an instruction manual. But pills and erections don’t arouse, people do. Here’s your chance to understand how pills, by themselves, are of little help.

•   Sex and Aggression:  No, we’re not talking "50 Shades of Anything." We’re talking the passion and energy that comes from desire. Do you know how to focus aggression for sexual turn-on?

In sum, this is a private intensive sex retreat based on the pragmatics of desire...in each of you.

A real couple with normal stressed-out lives. We want you to leave here feeling interested in exploring your erotic side. Move from a sexless marriage to a sexy marriage, with or without the sex!

Ready to find a weekend that works?

Schedule your Couples Sex Therapy Retreat.

Don't put it off!


Read more about sexless marriage.

An intensive couples sex therapy retreat.

Interested in improving your sex drive, resolving sexual dysfunction or improving sexual health? Without a passionate bond, problems set into your love life. You start looking for attention from other attractive people. Or your partner feels neglected. You may feel vulnerable to emotional or sexual affairs. Fighting about sex makes things worse and drives you both even farther away from satisfying sex. Sexuality is not seen as something disconnected from your entire relationship.


Facebook junkie? Porn?

Consider a sex retreat for two.

It allows you to re-establish trust after an emotional affair, sexual affair or "sexting." liaison. We explore many of the following issues:

  • No sex or INFREQUENT sex (less than 10x a year)
  • Trauma-related sexual inhibition
  • Pornography hyperfocus and abuse
  •  Problems in arousal or interest

Sexual discontent is a widespread problem in relationships.

And a painful one. 

"Gleam Beams:" that affectionate gaze at one another with warm smiles. It's not a matter of "sex" alone.

This weekend includes plenty of time to cover issues related to sexuality and intimacy.

Finally, an Intensive couples sex therapy retreat offering private, clinical attention with a professional highly trained in treating sexual problems.


No sleaze.
No hype.
Real clinical sex therapy.
Real answers.


Many assume sexual passion fades with long-term committed relationships.

That's a myth.

Far from it.

Instead, we integrate your relationship concerns, while allowing the time and space to work on common sexual issues. This includes;

  • a focus on low sexual desire
  • initiating and refusing sex
  • or problems related to sexual functioning.
I spent most of my marriage not knowing it could be as rich as this last month as been.

We'll apply the most advanced professional skills awarded to our therapists by those who practice sex therapy - The American Association for Sex Educators Counselors and Therapists: AASECT.org

There are no words to adequately express how grateful I am for the weekend my husband and I spent with you. You provided invaluable insight that, with time and practice, will help us navigate our marriage in a loving, supportive way. I walked away with so much hope, to the point of bursting with it. The concept of developmental trauma explains so much about the dynamics within our relationship, and still has us reeling when we think about the impact it has had..."

How this intensive couples sex retreat works:

Couples Retreat Schedule

Friday Evening

6 pm - 8 pm

We start by discussing what issues are most important to each of you around sexuality. We'll discuss goals and an individual focus that makes the most sense to the two of you.

SATURDAY

9:30 am - 4:30 pm

Individual meeting in the morning. In the afternoon we address:

  • Do we fight about sex?
  • What strengths and vulnerability to we bring that work for or against passion?
  • Do we initiate or refuse sex well?

SUNDAY

9:30 AM - 4:30 PM

Here are a sampling of the types of issues we might work on during the second full days of the Intensive Couples Sex Therapy Retreat:


  • Changing destructive patterns to increase initiation/refusal
  • Understanding different sexual styles and how to make it work despite these differences
  • How to get rid of that "mechanical" feeling that arises in sex.

Create the context for passionate expression.

Find a therapist by region:

She gave us practical tools to use for when I was very upset. We had struggled with much pain and anger and by the time we left we felt almost normal again with a new vision of our future and tools to use. She was extraordinarily easy to talk to and also has a nice sense of humor.  I was skeptical heading into the weekend but now I am so glad we did."

Begin with an assessment. Then, speak to your clinician about wanting an intensive to focus primarily on sexual issues.

Most couples feel relieved and hopeful after this intensive couples sexuality retreat.


Our goal is to enhance your intimate relating in a calm and respectful atmosphere. 

Collaborative, cooperative, even fun!


The way sexuality is supposed to be.

We know sexual problems can be an extremely painful issue for a couple. We get that. This work is designed to allow you to open up, share deeply, and feel safe in explore your sexual selves. Privately. Both of you with one skilled professional. Learning about each of you as unique individuals with particular needs.

couples intimacy workshops

Feel loved and desired again.

Lust isn't worth a damn unless it's lust for life and for the moment.

Common emotions following the intensive couples sex therapy retreat:

As a result of this first session, you may feel a sense of relief about the opportunity to move through the issues that brought you to us. However, these intensives may also stir up uncomfortable emotions such as guilt, sadness, anger, loneliness, or helplessness.

Long-standing sexual problems between couples need both time, patience, and goodwill. There may be other issues, such as chronic fighting, affairs, addictions, or deep-seated trauma histories that need to be worked on first, before you'll see dramatic results. 

Sexuality has to be considered more than an "act." It involves a whole host of issues including body image, confidence, trust, commitment, and early life experience that contribute to healthy sexual functioning.  These feelings and issues typically arise and may even feel exaggerated before you acquire both insight and the courage to change.

Feel comfortable,  sexy and desirable.


Passion includes a willingness to open to sensations, and if not, to examine why we're not open. It's a personal journey, as well as a relationship interaction. Couples that talk about sex regularly have a better sexual life. That's scientifically proven.


These intensive couples therapy retreats are not suitable for couples in the following situations:

  • When there is an undiagnosed physical medical concern. Please have a complete urological or gynecological exam prior to your retreat.
  • Pain or ED suggesting a physical illness.  Some SSRI antidepressant medications cause problems. Check this out with your psychiatrist ahead of time. It doesn't exclude you, but we need to know what's physical and what's not.
  • If you are in an undisclosed, ongoing, or recent affair, a sex retreat should follow only after healing and closure has happened as a result of that issue. Come for a retreat to work on that unfinished business.
  • In an active, current addiction.
  • Ongoing violence, or threats of violence by either spouse
  • An untreated mental illness, particularly suicidal or homicidal thought, or a history of serious harm you've done to yourself or another person.

If you have a mental health condition which is currently stable and/or in remission, you are welcome to participate in this form of treatment.

Is a couples intensive retreat right for you?

Thank you for giving us a safe place to talk, cry, laugh and in my case, shut down. Our time spent with you has had a tremendous impact on our relationship and has helped us both take the time to reflect on what we need to focus on going forward.
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*This is a sex retreat for couples is a  psychotherapy weekend with a licensed professional. No nudity is expected or allowed. You will never be asked to be sexual in front of your professional sex therapist. Read about our professional ethics here.

*due to COVID-19, we have suspended all in-person retreats until further notice. We hope to resume in the summer 2021.

Now offering online therapy intensives.