Introducing Dr. Kathy McMahon (Dr. K), Psychologist
Scheduling intensives for 2022
Want intensive couples help?
Dr. K provides couples therapy and sex therapy for couples in the following US states:
Attend a marriage retreat in Boston, Massachusetts.
Psy.D. Antioch University New England ~ Keene, N.H. .(Clinical Psychology). APA Approved 1988.
- Dissertation Title: Interactional Processes and Styles of Marital Adaptation to Parenthood.
M.A. Antioch University West ~ San Francisco, CA (Counseling Psychology with a Specialization in Sex and Family Therapy) 1979.
B.A. Salem State College, Salem MA (Psychology) 1977.
Massachusetts: Licensed Psychologist and Health Service Provider #5036
Florida: Licensed Psychologist #PY 9884
California: Licensed Psychologist #29205
Arizona: Licensed Psychologist #4914
Practicing Sex Therapist
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"We were in a 25+ year marriage with no real communication. After years of multiple stressors, one partner felt ending the marriage would be best. We were confronted with loving the other person, but not feeling "in love." There was a lot of emotional isolation and distancing. One partner's work had become more important than the marriage. We were hesitant about revealing personal, very personal truths to a stranger. We were both anxious about hearing the status of our marriage from a professional. Dr. K is personable, funny, and impartial. We never felt like she was taking anyone's side. She is highly intelligent and insightful. After the first few moments of speaking with her, we both felt very comfortable. We heard new "truths" about each other. We began to understand how our childhood experiences played a key role in our roles of husband and wife. We let ourselves finally be vulnerable. Instead of pursuing a legal separation, we are now committed to working on building our marriage into something fun and amazing. Dr. K is passionate about her work and her enthusiasm is infectious. It is an amazing experience to feel such desire to not simply "save" what you had but to make it rich with love and respect. We both felt our "stories" were validated. Our childhood experiences are relevant and with Dr. K's help, we were able to see each other in a new light. For the first time in our 26 years of marriage, we are putting ourselves first."
What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?
"It is a leap. Forget all the worry and the questions and just do it. You will not have any regrets. It will be the best money you've ever spent."
"When I looked in the mirror on Monday morning, I saw, for the first time, a loved and lovable woman looking back at me. The woman looking back at me was not defective, not broken, not crazy. I didn't, until that moment, realize how much contempt I felt for myself all these years. Imagine the joy I felt! And the gratitude!
There are no words to adequately express how grateful I am for the weekend my husband and I spent with you. You provided invaluable insight that, with time and practice, will help us navigate our marriage as well as our relationships with our children and extended family in a loving, supportive way. I walked away with so much hope, to the point of bursting with it.
Thank you for helping us, Dr. K! And thank you for the work you do!"
”I am a social worker/therapist and there was no one locally that I felt could really help us on a level that would be deep enough
Dr. K was the best therapist I have ever met. Sense of humor, communication direct, respectful and compassionate.
Expertise; I felt heard, safe and comfortable with her. I am not certain where we would be without her help. Although my heart is still aching and I feel overwhelmed with the amount of work that needs to be done I am grateful to understand how being a neuro-diverse couple has impacted our lives. There is hope for healing, compassion and understanding on both our parts. Dr. K, as I said is the best most professional therapist I have ever encountered.
Finding out that my husband is neuro-atypical has change almost everything. Although I am feeling overwhelmed the last 36 years make much more sense. I feel more compassion but I also feel so tired of having yet another "thing" that I have to understand.
We have a formula to learn how to communicate better, validation that there was indeed a reason why I was feeling the way I have and why I have felt so hurt over the many years we have been together."
What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?
"It was an exhausting weekend that brought with it a new understanding of each other as individuals within our marriage. Months worth of therapy in a weekend that we would never have gotten going once a week in standard Marriage Therapy."
Two Retreat Locations
Boston, MA (Click for more information)
BOSTON LANDING, MA:
Available: Year Round
Our Boston Landing location is 15-minutes from Logan Airport, Cambridge, Downtown Boston, and the Back Bay/Newbury Street. Rental Unit available.
Midtown Miami winter 2021-2022 (pending)
MIDTOWN MIAMI, FL:
See you in 2021!
Midtown Miami is loaded with great art, restaurants and shopping. Two blocks from the Design District with 70+ stores.
I am a naturally enthusiastic teacher and trainer. I feel passionate about couples therapy and sex therapy and hold a deep respect towards those who invest in making their relationship better. I try to model honesty with my clients. I feel the responsibility to embrace my foibles, as part of what makes me human, and in this, I am hoping to demonstrate and lead by example. To err is human, and makes us interesting people. I am willing to be proven wrong. I strive to be non-defensive, open and always curious about my client's reactions and my reactions to them. Compassion begins with forgiving ourselves. I learn from my clients, as they learn from me.
You will find that I have an active interactional style that is no-nonsense, but sweetened with humor and empathetic engagement. I care deeply about my couples. I adore all of them (most of the time), and I work hard to help them because I believe in intimate relationships. I want to help you to live happy, productive lives. And I want to strengthen the families that so depend on upon your healthy relationship.
I try to broaden the emotional vocabulary of my clients, and to help them overcome society’s bias against powerful emotions like grief, sadness, anger, jealousy, guilt, and shame. Feeling something is no crime, and should carry no punishment. I enjoy working with Neurodiverse couples where one is neuro-atypical (or on the Autism Spectrum), such as those that have, or have fallen slightly short of an Asperger diagnosis, and those with attention deficit. I do my best to "talk practically," and avoid suggesting ideas that are unworkable to this population.
I was AASECT Board-certified Diplomat in Sex Therapy and Sex Educator for 30 years, but time constraints doesn't allow me to keep up with this certification. I think I've earned my stripes, however. Sex therapy work is some of my most cherished clinical endeavors. I treat it as far more valuable than an act. When it's working, it creates the very heart of the marriage. When it stops working, it corrodes the soul. I will tread respectfully in this area. But both of you deserved to be well loved. You can read my articles on sexuality here.
I work with all couples, from every walk of life, including LGBTQIA+ couples.
Expert on Clinical Principles, Not on You
I am not an expert on my clients. I am an expert at understanding human relationships and sexology. I want my couples to be, or become, experts on themselves, their relationships, and their sexual lives.
Why I Do What I Do
I’m an outspoken cultural skeptic. I’m frightened about the state of our environment and about the depletion of resources that have made our modern life so wonderful. The pressures on people in our culture and our time are enormous, and we all need a good set of tools to cope with these pressures.
Nevertheless, I remain optimistic about the capacity of a small group of people to make profound changes in their own lives, and the lives of their communities. That's what changes the world.
I believe the following:
I received my doctoral degree in Clinical Psychology from Antioch University New England in 1988. I have very much taken to heart something that Horace Mann said at an address at Antioch College in 1859:
Be ashamed to die until you have won some victory for humanity.”
Excellent couples therapy offered around the world is a victory of sorts!
I later became the Director of the Master’s Program in Counseling Psychology in the Department of Applied Psychology. In that program alone there were 120-140 students and 40 faculty members. I’ve trained many of the Masters’ Level clinicians who are now helping to heal and repair others in their communities.
It is a fact I’m very proud of.
I’m also a Certified Gottman Therapist, one of an elite group of clinicians worldwide. And one of many in this practice. I'm also certified as a Discernment Counselor.
I've also, as I've mentioned, practice sex therapist and I practice sex therapy in all of the states that I'm licensed in: CA, AZ and FL. I teach Human Sexuality & Sex Therapy in the Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology at Antioch these days. I’ve also taught Human Sexuality and Sex Therapy, and Gender and Ethnicity among other courses, at the University of St. Joseph in West Hartford, Connecticut & Cambridge College in Cambridge, Massachusetts, some for decades.
Teaching graduate students also give me great joy, and I feel honored to be able to do it. I’ve also been a Clinical Fellow of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy for over 25 years, and a board-certified Sex Therapy Diplomate and Educator for over three decades. This organization first made me a certified sex therapist in Massachusetts.
For three years, I supervised pre-doctoral psychology interns in an inner-city mental health clinic serving multi-generational, multi-problem families. I carried a supervisory caseload averaging 130-150 ongoing cases. I saw what grinding, multi-generational poverty does to the human soul.
I also learned to find some uneasy truce with that reality and to have an abiding respect for our clients’ struggles to stand tall and maintain dignity throughout horrific adversity.
Allow me to assure you that little of what you might say to me is likely to surprise me.
Fully Certified by the Gottman Institute
8 Day Core Skills Training
Certifications & Associations:
Board-Certified Sex Educator and
Sex Therapy Diplomate (1982-2016)
–American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy.
Executive Board Member
– Massachusetts State Division of American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy – 1992-1996; 2013-2015
Fundamentals of Working with Neurodiverse Couples
I’m a clinical psychologist, university professor, writer. I cherish all of these roles.
I’m ethnically Irish, Scottish and English. My Mother was born in Nova Scotia, Canada. She returned as a child many times, as her Father, a finish carpenter, was building his own my Great Grandmother) a house.
He worked with my Father years later to build the house I grew up in, a modest Cape that held five children. The home was one block from the one my Mother grew up in. Growing up, I was surrounded by my Mother's family, as she was the youngest of 8.
Both sides of my Father's family arrived from Ireland, both named McMahon and from the same county in Ireland, but they didn't know one another and weren't related. (Think: Jones or Smith). They met and married in South Boston. My Dad was the youngest of three.
I still have family in Ireland and believe ethnicity is an important part of many people’s lives, even if they don’t realize it or identify with it.
I did a day and a half presentation in the Spring of 2019 to Marriage and Family Therapists in Arizona through the Couples Therapy Interest Group of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. The focus was on how the nature of couples therapy is changing with a new generation of Millennials and new approaches to sexual issues. Only 8% see any stigma attached to going to couples therapy and many already have. Go Millennials!
In January 2015, I presented to clinicians from all over the world on the topic of High Functioning Autism in Marriage, through the Couples Institute in California. This is a training institute for the Developmental Method of Couples Therapy.
They liked it, and asked for more. I presented on Clinical Issues in High Functioning Autism in Marriage, also through the Couples Institute, in May 2015.
In February, 2014, I was honored to present the Gottman Method Couples Therapy approach to a room full of my colleagues in a conference called “Couples on the Edge: Working with Relationships from Multiple Perspectives.” I was one of six presenters with approaches including Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Narrative, Bowen, Developmental, and Imago. It was sponsored by The Massachusetts Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. A year later, in 2015, I was back presenting to Massachusetts clinicians on "Deconstructing Sexuality in Couples Therapy" with three other colleagues.
Selected Presentations (continued)
COMMONWEALTH EDUCATIONAL SEMINARS - A CONTINUING EDUCATION PROVIDER
· The Diagnosis and Treatment of Sexual Dysfunctions.
THE BOSTON ASSOCIATION FOR CHILDBIRTH EDUCATION
· Postpartum Adaptation in High-Risk Mothers.
· Sexual Adjustment in Pregnancy & Postpartum.
PARTNERS IN PERINATAL HEALTH CARE CONFERENCE
· “Is There Sex After Birth?”: A Re-examination of Postpartum Sexuality
LICENSED PRACTICAL NURSES OF MASSACHUSETTS, INC.
· Threats to Female Body Image; Methods of Sexual Assessment; South Shore District Conference· Human Sexuality: Definitions & Directions (Keynote Address); Beyond Guilt and Aggression: A Look at Assertiveness Strategies for Nurses; Self-Image in Sex Counseling; The Nurse's Role as a Sex Education Resource. Annual Convention.
…About your situation, and how I might be helpful. I work with the most highly distressed of couples who are strongly motivated to improve their marriage. I also see Discernment Counseling couples and those wanting to revitalize their sexual lives.
THE AMERICAN ASSOCIATION OF MARRIAGE & FAMILY THERAPISTS - ARIZONA SPECIAL INTEREST - COUPLES THERAPY
- Couples Therapy: New Demands for a Changing Time. 2019.
THE COUPLES INSTITUTE, MENLO PARK CA
- High Functioning Autism in Marriage, through the Couples Institute in California. 2015
- Clinical Strategies with High Functioning Autism / Neurotypical marriages. 2015.
AAMFT NATIONAL CONFERENCE:
· Facilitated the Sexuality "Open Forums" - for five years (two years co-facilitating with David Schnarch, Ph.D.)
· Promoting Sexual Health in Communities and Families ~ Anaheim, CA.
A JOINT CONFERENCE OF THE SOCIETY FOR THE SCIENTIFIC STUDY OF SEX & AASECT:
· Contextualizing Aggression & Eroticism: Does Schnarch's Model Create a Pressure Cooker for Women?
MASSACHUSETTS ASSOCIATION OF MARRIAGE AND FAMILY THERAPISTS:
· Tangled Truths – Helping Couples with the Aftermath of Sexual Trauma. Moderator. Northampton, MA
· Couples on the Edge – Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Northampton, MA
· Sexual/Ethical Issues in Systemic Therapy. First Friday Seminar, Marlboro, MA
ALBANY MEDICAL CENTER, ALBANY NY:
· Taming the Anxiety and Inviting the Dialogue (Patient Sexuality). Grand Rounds. Albany Medical Center, Albany, NY