Sex-addicts face many critical challenges within their effort to get sober. But the discovery that your partner is a clandestine sex addict, is a profound challenge as well. When sex addiction is discovered or disclosed, many betrayed spouses question everything they believe about their relationship. They often torment themselves trying to figure out how they could have been so clueless.
For partners who thought they were in a safe and secure marriage, the revelation they have been deceived and lied to on a vast scale might induce them to speculate what, if anything, does work in their relationship. They may begin to wonder if it’s even worthwhile to attempt to rebuild a foundation of trust with their partner.
Betrayed companions also tend to question their own conduct. They may speculate whether they could have done more to enhance their relationship. All of this self-appraisal is very typical, and a good couples therapist can help betrayed partners grieve the often intense trauma of the loss of trust and connection.
Daniel is a Marriage and Family Therapist. He is the Blog Editor. He currently works online seeing couples from Massachusetts at Couples Therapy Inc. He uses EFT, Gottman Method, Solution-focused and the Developmental Model in his approaches.