Introducing Catherine Pfuntner, LMFT, CSAC, ICADC
Catherine is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Substance Abuse Counselor, and supervisor with advanced training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
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She is a brilliant, highly skilled therapist.
We had tried couples therapy 18 years ago. It was at the beginning of our relationship. It was helpful, but we worked more on...
each individual than the actual relationship. I wanted to improve communication, conflict resolution, intimacy.
We liked Couples Therapy Inc’s credibility as indicated on the website and knowing that Gottman Approach and EFT would be employed.
Catherine Pfuntner created a safe container. I trusted her. She listened deeply. She clearly had studied the Big Big Book and it was evident she understood the earlier life experiences that are still affecting us. That meant a lot to me. She was empathetic, compassionate. She was honest and set the stage early on that she would be interrupting at key moments to help show us a better way of communicating. We were receptive and we learned many new skills regarding vulnerability, communication, conflict resolution thanks to her expert facilitation. We are definitely going to keep working with her until we can hone our relationship skills. We are so grateful to Catherine for creating this opportunity for us to go deeper and to allow ourselves to be vulnerable with one another in a way that we would not have done without professional facilitation.
We’ve experienced re-connection at the heart level. And an open mind about the possibility for our future. We experienced vulnerability which opened us both up. We have new skills we are practicing and it is working. Avoiding the 4 horsemen; attempting repairs when we notice we are heading down the wrong road, and it is working! Seeking to understand before being understood. We both feel much closer, honest about the fact that we have a ways to go before we are skilled at communication and conflict resolution, but we are practicing, using our handouts as guides, and wanting to schedule more time with Catherine in the next few months so that we can keep progressing and address some of the more hot perpetual problems while she is present and can help coach us in our communication until we are more skilled on our own.
She is a brilliant, highly skilled therapist.
What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?
Do it! It is the best investment if you truly want your relationship to not only survive, but to thrive! We were seriously questioning if we should stay together and after our intensive, our hearts were opened as we experienced vulnerability and honest sharing with one another as a result of the expert facilitation of our therapist. I saw my husband in a new light and much of my criticism and contempt has been replaced with curiosity and compassion. We now have the communication and conflict resolution skills that we were missing in our relationship tool box.
[We have] profound gratitude to all of you at Couples Therapy Inc. for providing the service that you do. From Dr. K and the leadership team, to the behind the scenes tech people, to Olivia and the administrative staff, and of course, Catherine, Gottman and all the other researchers that have developed effective methods of restoring and deepening relationships. Thank you!
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Credentials
Education
M.A., Chaminade University, Oahu, Hawaii (Counseling Psychology) 2010
B.A, Houghton College, Caneadea, New York (Psychology)
Licenses
Marriage and Family Therapist:
Massachusetts #1748
Hawaii #333
Vermont (Telehealth): #100.0134143TELE
Substance Abuse Counselor:
Hawaii #1709-12
Massachusetts
Practice Values
Research has demonstrated strong support for the importance of romantic relationships in our lives. Most of us are not well-trained for being in romantic relationships. Couples therapy is essential for some in bridging the gap to better connect in these important relationships.
I have experience working with couples in the addiction setting, and in the military/Veteran population.
I appreciate working with the most challenging couples, e.g., ones that may no longer be living together or are at the brink of ending their relationship, but still come in for therapy.
The disconnect can be profound, but yet some couples I’ve had the privilege of working with repair even the deepest wounds and move forward together.
I also work well with couples who are loudly argumentative and reactive in the session. I have found several strategies that help both work through the intensity and energy that one or both of them have. I help them to contain and direct it. My training in both EFT and Gottman has been essential in keeping the energy in these sessions manageable.
I don't villainize or pathologize partners who become activated in sessions. I help them to feel understood. It helps that I can manage the room compassionately and calmly. This seems to increase the sense of safety allowing partners to become more vulnerable.
My supervisors and mentors were not just marriage and family therapy “smart.” They had the art of therapy down, and they knew how to supervise really well. I think my motivation to become a supervisor stems from being under their guidance and wanting to pass that onto others.
Work Summary
In my 13 years of mental health work, I have worked in substance abuse counseling clinics, both harm reduction and abstinence programs, and in all levels of care.
In my previous position with the VA’s Vet Center program, I was considered the Subject Matter Expert for couples/family therapy, substance abuse counseling, and children with Autism. There I mostly worked with Veterans, Service Members, and their families, primarily trauma-focused care due to either combat and/or military sexual trauma, in addition to bereavement counseling with Gold Star family members.
I worked with children with autism and their families, as well. I have trained and provided individual, group, couples, and family counseling. I also did some part time work with juveniles and at-risk youth/teens in emergency and group foster homes for a few years.
It helps me see the diversity in the world, learn new strategies, stay open-minded and patient with people, and appreciate the different paths people take in life.
Evidence-based Models
Advanced Training in the Gottman Method
Gottman Training: Treating Affairs and Trauma
Externship and Core Skills Training
Workshop Leader
Case presentations & advanced topics in neurodiverse couples therapy
Level I Training: The Developmental Model
Associations
American Association of Marriage & Family Therapist ---Clinical Fellow
International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally-Focused Therapy
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New England Emotionally Focused Therapy -Member
NAADAC, Association for Addiction Professionals - Member
Hobbies
I love cooking and baking. I really like taking on quests to find “the” recipe for something.
My cooking and baking exploits are entire productions. I select a recipe I want to get to know... like when I was learning to make Pad Thai: I researched different recipes, and the culture behind the dish, get to know the different cooking methods involved.
I try to learn what the dish is really about, and then create a recipe reflective of it...even if it includes ingredients I struggle with, like fish sauce! Since that really is a quintessential ingredient, it’s only respectful to include it.
Then I execute, evaluate, and modify if needed.
Sometimes I get it on the first go, but other times, it may take several trials.
My chocolate chip cookie recipe took two years from research to final recipe, but it was worth it.
I've taken a lot of pictures of foods I’ve made. However, I hate doughs. Making most doughs seems to be about knowing the feeling of the dough you’re looking for and I don’t have the experience or guidance with it. Most of my doughs have been failures, so I usually just buy them from the store.
My husband and I also love going to places to find the best wings and apple fritters (not usually at the same time). Those are hard to do well, but I’ve found a place for each that does them exactly perfectly. There is a restaurant in my hometown that has the best chicken wings that I’ve ever had, so I’m lucky I get to eat them a few times a year. The place I grew up in is relatively small and mostly in the middle of nowhere in upstate New York.
Personally Speaking
I'm persistent, empathetic, and someone who appreciates the quiet. Being present in therapy requires these qualities.
I get told I am soft spoken. Sometimes this prompts a person to slow down, focus attention on me, and listen better to what I may be saying at the moment.
I do not fit the “demographic” that a client seems to think s/he needs. Since I have worked with so many different “populations,” I have encountered clients telling me why I would not understand them, e.g., it is because I am not in recovery, I was not in the military, I did not have children, too young, too old (teenagers, right?).
For the brave souls who venture to disclose this objection, I validate that the person may be worried that I will not understand or connect well. I ask the person to allow for a few sessions, and if they come to the same conclusion, I will support the termination and connect the person to another therapist. They never do switch.
I also invite my clients to give me feedback, so if they are concerned, I am not understanding, or maybe a strategy we tried didn't seem to work, or I even say something that didn't land well, we can work to repair this together and move forward in our work.
I could not help but smile when an older female client during our initial session told me she needed someone who looked like they “had more wisdom.”
Maybe it was during one of the times I had just colored my roots to hide all the gray. She was open-minded and gave me the opportunity to connect with her, and she did some impressive work in the process. And I still smile thinking about what she said.
I appreciate the honesty!
It allowed us to talk openly about this barrier to connection and work through it together.
My parents have been married for 45 years and counting. I’m proud of how committed they have been to each other. I remember growing up, watching my mom pack my dad’s lunch every day and putting little notes in his lunch box, or driving down when he worked the graveyard shift to have dinner with him on his break. They have impressive work ethics, love unconditionally, and are deeply committed people. I can see their love through their actions.
From them, I learned that you show your values by what you put your time into. So, for example, when I am in a session, I am present with that person or couple. And personally, I make sure I take the time to be with the people in my life and show them what they mean to me. We eventually lose those opportunities, so it is important to do it in the present.
I lived in Hawaii for nearly 8 years and I miss it every day.
I really do not like decorating or having a lot of collections or knick-knacks in any of my spaces. The items I do keep in my office are either functional or sentimental, occasionally both.
For something to be in my offices, it must have immense value, which is why most of the stuff that falls into the sentimental category comes from my parents.
My dad, a Navy Vietnam War Veteran, loves hard candy, so he would always give me a bag to put in my office for Veterans. My mom likes elephants and now I have one in my office. I am lucky to have my parents on my team, and I appreciate having them present in some form in my office.
Finally, I love dresses. I probably have a few more than any reasonable human should own. I really appreciate vintage style dresses, so anytime I can wear a petticoat and still fit through the door, I do it.
Traveling for the best food is worth it.
Oloke, number one.
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