The evolution of couples therapy has seen a seismic shift, particularly with the advent of science-driven methodologies pioneered by Dr. John Gottman. Often deemed impossible, Gottman's pursuit of measurable patterns in relationship dynamics challenged the very foundations of traditional therapeutic approaches. His unwavering dedication to studying observable behaviors laid the groundwork for a scientific understanding of intimate connections, revolutionizing how troubled relationships are comprehended and healed. Dr. Gottman's journey into the quantifiable intricacies of relationships opened new doors, sparking a transformation that reshaped the landscape of couples therapy as we know it today.

Science-based Couples Therapy

In an earlier post, I described the dubious dawn of couples therapy before John Gottman and science-based couples therapy. In this post, I hope to convey what a startling transition has been made with the advent of research-driven couples therapy. There is one man who has been at the forefront of this scientific revolution: Dr. John Gottman.

Dr. John Gottman in his heart is a mathematician and "hard" scientist.  He devotes his life to meticulously recorded observational data, and carefully uncovering hidden patterns of stimulus and response. He was obsessed with measuring what many of his colleagues believed at the time was not measurable.

Gottman wanted to know:

Were there predictable patterns of behavior, or sequences of interactions, that could help us fundamentally understand why some couples remained loving and connected, while others sank into misery...despite struggling with identical problems?

At the time, it was not at all clear that uncovering such knowledge was even possible. Dr. Gottman and his colleagues began by developing the mathematics for sequential analysis, which has since become a mature research methodology.

Systematic observation of couples was undertaken in Gottman's lab way back in the 1970's. His efforts were rewarded by the mental health field with bemused skepticism. Therapists at that time found it impossible to identify predictable patterns in the personality of an individual client. They found the notion of a science-based couples therapy laughable.

If we could not fathom the depths of a single human soul, how could we even begin to measure intimate relationships between partners?

No wonder couples therapy before Gottman had a success rate of well under 20%.

Before Gottman, not only was there no science in couples therapy, but the prevailing wisdom was also that there would never be any science to be had. Gottman was on a fool's errand, trying to measure the unmeasurable.

Gottman Became a Pioneer in Facial Coding in Science-Based Couples Therapy

In a series of research studies, Dr. Gottman and his colleagues developed new methods for studying sequences of interaction and facial coding.

They collected data in real-time, by constructing a “Talk Table.” With the innovative technology of the "Talk Table," couples could describe their emotions during a conversation, and rate not only how positive or negative their intentions were, but also how positive or negative their partner's reactions were to their conveyed message.

In 1975, Robert Levenson and John Gottman analyzed emotion in a brand new way. They pioneered the use of psychophysiological measurement and a video-recall method that gave them rating dial measures of how people actually felt during an argument in real-time.

Gottman built on the work of Paul Ekman and Wallace Friesen, who were developing their Facial Affect Coding System (FACS).  In CTI, both Dr. McMahon and Dr. Rodriguez have advanced certifications at the "expert level" in Paul Ekman's facial recognition training.

If you've ever seen the TV show "Lie to Me," it is based on Dr. Ekman's work. In 1989, Dr. Gottman ultimately developed his own technology, the Specific Affect Coding System (SPAFF).

Dr. Gottman was fascinated with measuring couple interaction with minute attention to detail. He began applying time-series analysis to his interactional data.

He pioneered the merits of time-series analysis and became an evangelist on the merits of this new technology to clinical psychologists.

In 1980 Gottman and his colleagues received their first grant, and now the question was:

Is this data replicable? Are we on to something here? Can we measure what was commonly believed to be impossible to quantify? Can we uncover the fundamental laws of a happy marriage?

Replicable Studies in Science-Based Couples Therapy

One of Gottman's most important discoveries was that the vast majority of relationship problems (69%) were utterly unsolvable. They were related to differences in families of origin, culture, personal beliefs and values, and personality.

Much of Gottman's discoveries were counter-intuitive and contradicted the then-current seat-of-the-pants couples therapy.

These "Perpetual Problems" are a universal aspect of marital intimacy, and require management and attunement rather than specific solutions.

Dr. Gottman's research fascinated the press, and he came to dominate the field of couples therapy because his research was startlingly and unarguably predictive, and replicable.

In fact, in seven longitudinal studies, the data held up under scrutiny. Gottman could now predict whether or not a couple would eventually divorce with an astonishing 90% or better accuracy. He was able to stone-cold quantify what many believed was utterly unquantifiable.

His research employed breakthroughs in emotional coding technologies, measuring incidents of Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling (which Gottman called the "Four Horseman of the Marital Apocalypse").

Further metrics in physiology and a fresh approach to clinical interviews were also ground-breaking. Gottman and his research colleagues truly are the fathers of modern science-based couples therapy.

Science-Based Couples Therapy in the Love Lab

In 1986, Gottman spearheaded the design and construction of an apartment laboratory at the University of Washington that was nicknamed the “Love Lab” by the press.  There were mounted cameras in the common rooms, a large two-way mirror with technicians recording and coding marital interactions.

"Jiggle meters" were at the bottoms of the chairs to measure physical agitation during conversations. Blood was drawn to ascertain prevailing levels of stress hormones.

Gottman and his team measured everything they could. Relentlessly. Precisely. Over decades, with over 3000 couples.

The "Love Lab" research famously uncovered the hidden realities of marital friendship and intimacy, and how gridlocked conflict could be constructively managed, and long-standing relational rifts healed and repaired.

It took Levenson & Gottman 14 years of research, but they uncovered another more subtle dysfunctional pattern; emotional disengagement. It is characterized by a lack of positive affect while in a conflictual discussion (no curiosity, humor, repair attempts, warmth, or, most important...empathy). The uncovering of this pattern completed the clinical timeline.

For the first time in the annals of social science, it was possible to predict not only the likelihood of divorce but now, most amazingly... when. Couples who had marital interactions dominated by the Four Horsemen tended to divorce an average of five and a half years after the wedding, while the newly identified emotionally disengaged couples managed to be divorced more than three times later, just over 16 years after the wedding.

Sound Relationship House Theory of Science-Based Couples Therapy

In 1994, Gottman began to develop with his wife, clinical psychologist Dr. Julie Schwartz-Gottman, a synthesis of decades of research culminating in their groundbreaking, Gottman Method Sound Relationship House (SRH) theory.

Many of us have been deeply involved with the Institute since its start. Gottman Theory since was first codified 20 years ago. The Gottman Institute, founded in 1996, brings science-based clinical research and advanced certification training to couples therapists all over the world.

It is ambitious and demanding training. The Gottman Institute wants to know that couples are in good hands with you, particularly if you're conducting an Intensive Couples Retreat.

This training is so important that CTI requires all of its therapists to have advanced training in the Gottman Method before seeing clients here.

Why Science-Based Couples Therapy Matters

What does science-based couples therapy mean to the world? What does it mean to you? Science-based couples therapy is 70% to 92% effective. It can be life-changing. And its beneficial influence on your loved ones can echo through time.

The science of healing intimate bonds has never been better. We have two research-driven, evidence-based methods to heal and repair troubled marriages, Gottman and EFT.

And both have advanced training institutes.

In conclusion, the scientific revolution in couples therapy led by Dr. John Gottman has transformed the landscape of relationship counseling. Gottman's meticulous research, ranging from facial coding to physiological measurements, unveiled fundamental patterns governing relationship dynamics. His findings, including identifying unsolvable issues and predicting divorce outcomes, fundamentally reshaped therapeutic approaches. The establishment of the Gottman Institute and the Sound Relationship House theory stand as pillars in evidence-based couples therapy. Despite its remarkable efficacy, the scarcity of trained therapists underscores the urgent need for wider access to science-based methods to aid troubled relationships.

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Dr. Kathy McMahon


Dr. Kathy McMahon (Dr. K) is a clinical psychologist and sex therapist. She is also the founder and president of Couples Therapy Inc. Dr. K feels passionate about couples therapy and sex therapy and holds a deep respect towards those who invest in making their relationship better. She is currently conducting online and in person private couples retreats.

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  1. Well, it sounds good but… is it *really* evidence-based? Where are the double-blind studies? Where are the papers published in peer-reviewed journals? The section on “Replicable Studies” mentions 7 studies. OK, good to know, but let’s see them – references please!

    And even if those studies exist, it’s a long way from having a set of replicable studies to therapeautic methods that are proven to work. Even if I accept the statistic about the ability to predict divorce, what I really care about is the ability to *prevent* a divorce that would otherwise have happened.

    I will say that the Gottman methods are as good as anything else out there, but I question whether they are really proven to be any better.

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