Power couples captivate us.
Power couples are a living embodiment of an intimacy to which we all aspire.
We want to build a fabulous life, with a wonderful partner that will bring out our best selves. You bring your “a-game” every day because you know your partner is in your corner. On the flip side you feel tremendous satisfaction knowing that your partner is also at their best with you by their side.
Power couples stand out. They are at the top of their game. They are each in high demand but attend to their marriage with care and determination. Power couples have a certain nobility and an obvious grace. They inspire and push the boundaries of human achievement.
Power couples seem to have it all.
Despite that inspiring paradigm this is often seemingly out of reach. Many of us don’t have the resources to become a power couple. Maybe we can’t hire people to run all of our errands and attend to our daily mundane tasks.
However, ordinary couples move toward becoming a power couple when they enter the challenging conversations about how values and priorities are attended to.
What is a power couple?
When both spouses are not only accomplished in their respective fields of endeavor, they do so while carefully and deliberately loving and supporting one another without reservation, then we have a power couple.
There are three key dimensions of a power couple; intimacy, power, and coherent boundaries.
Every couple will aspire to discover the depths of their intimacy. At the end of the day, power couples are people who need people. They value family and close, intimate bonds. Power couples always attend to their relationship quality; they don’t wait for problems to arise, because they tune-up and course-correct on an ongoing basis.
They understand the limits (and potential consequences) of their respective power. Power couples typically work within a human environment that offers “support” in ways that often seek to cross boundaries, create uncertainty, and then probe for weaknesses. Power couples have to have a good nose for human frailties.
This is where a practice of healthy restraint within predetermined boundaries comes into play. Power couples will often sit down and specifically discuss their priorities and values. Power couples are one another’s safe haven, while attractive others are held at arm's-length by comparison.
There are 8 things power couples do better because they do it differently
Power couples are deliberate and purposeful and we can learn from them as we examine our own relationships. Let’s look at the 8 ways that power couples guard their intimacies with care and maintain healthy boundaries at work.
"I always thought love was up close. Love is the dinner table, love is consistency, it is presence. So I had to share my vulnerability and also learn to love differently. It was an important part of my journey of becoming. Understanding how to become us." Michelle Obama
What do you say about someone who’s always there with support and understanding, someone who makes sacrifices so that your life will be easier and more successful? Well, what you say is that you love that person and treasure her.” Ronald Reagan.
"Again and again, we're searching for that person who's a magic key for us, makes us feel connected, secure, part of something bigger than ourselves. Without it, the world ain't any fun." Tom Hanks
Power couples are public perceptions that are confirmed or rejected over time
Many couples are eager to present as a power couple. When it isn’t real, the ruse never lasts long. Most of us “feel” the empathy real power couples have for one another when we encounter them.
Both spouses in a power couple are pre-eminent in their fields of endeavor, but somehow still manage to make intimacy look almost too easy.
Power couples inspire and intrigue us. They have inner elegance and poise. Power couples are a form of human royalty, they make being your best seem utterly effortless.
Power couples inspire us and authentic power couples inspire one another.
And when ordinary couples are reliably and relentlessly curious, collaborative, and empathetic in deciding how to best share their dreams and aspirations, as well as the mundane tasks at hand, they become, however briefly, a power couple too!