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A message from
Dr. De Villiers
Love is hard. The good news is that I believe anyone is capable of transforming their relationship, as impossible as it may seem. This is what excites me the most…to have a couple walk into my office feeling very little hope or no hope at all and providing them support, empathy, and solutions. My job is to help the couple find a “new beginning” that will make their marriage stronger and better than ever. We don’t just talk or focus on problems. I help the couple to develop John Gottman’s evidence-based skills with the hope that “Doing so can turn conflict into a new experience of revealing and honoring life dreams, finding shared meaning, and reaffirming the couple’s friendship.” —John Gottman
Learn more about my work
Licenses
New York: # 020699-1
California: # psy18687
Where I Practice
Clinical office: La Jolla, California
Online intensives and follow up sessions: California and New York
Credentials
Education
B.A. in Psychology – California State University
M.A. in Clinical Psychology – California School of Professional Psychology
Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology – California School of Professional Psychology
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Advanced Training in the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy
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Gottman Leader – 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work
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EMDR Institute
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American Psychological Association (APA)
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American Association of Christian Counselors
You’ll be in remarkably good hands with our advanced licensed relationship experts.
Client Reviews
Feedback from my couples
I could not imagine a better person to counsel us.
Previous couples therapy was not good. It was someone trying to do couples therapy that wasn’t qualified. Made things worse for us.
We chose Couples Therapy Inc for the Gottman method and the feeling that nothing was working and we would be divorcing if we couldn’t find solutions.
Dr. Evelyn De Villiers was so good for us. I could not imagine a better person to counsel us. We have hope for our relationship. Skills to handle conflict. [Learned] how to take a time out for 20 minutes when things escalate. We have a better understanding of how we got here and how to turn the boat around. We are moving away from negative sentiment, making deposits, listening and using soft starts to conversations.
What would you say to couples that are considering working with Couples Therapy Inc.?
Do it. There are never guarantees when it comes to people adopting relationship positive behaviors but two people who want a good relationship will benefit immensely from the tools, learning and understanding of how to resolve your unique issues. It’s wonderful to have your own therapist where you can talk about anything and focus on you two versus being in a group.
Thank you, Dr Evelyn!!
Recent Client Reports
I left the weekend with a renewed sense of hope for my marriage.
I left the weekend with a renewed sense of hope for my marriage.
Our intensive weekend with Dr. De Villiers was wonderful.We had an instant connection with Evelyn and she was extremely easy to speak to and open up to.
Dr. De Villiers offered us many, manageable intervention techniques and helped us uncover a lot of triggers and feelings. She reviewed the BIG BIG Book © with us so that we would know where to go, in the book, based on what was going on in our relationship.
I know I left the weekend with a renewed sense of hope for my marriage and I feel like she gave us real life, useful ways to handle conflict.
Dr. De Villiers is one of the best therapists that I have been to. She is so personable and relatable and knowledgeable. She truly believes in helping others and that came across from the second we met her.
I cannot say enough positive things about Dr. De Villiers.
Recent Client Reports
I felt like years of progress were made in such a small space of time.
I want to thank Couples Therapy Inc and Dr. De Villiers for such an amazing experience. I felt like years of progress were made in such a small space of time. In my life, it will always be remembered as a positive experience no matter where my marriage ends up.
Recent Client Reports