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Now offering an intensive marriage retreat online.
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M.A. Antioch University New England. Marriage and Family Therapy. (2016).
M.S. University of Massachusetts, Amherst. Labor Studies. (2008) Cum Laude
B.A. Rhode Island College, Providence. Labor Studies. (1991) Cum Laude
Pre-licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Supervisor: Kyle Killian, Ph.D.., LMFT
Prior Group Supervision: Michele Weiner Davis
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"I was not sure that my wife could be real with me or herself.
We had tried just regular therapy. Nothing like this. I told Daniel to hold no punches, that our marriage depended on him!
After 37 years and two marriages, I was able to be heard! I also learned how I added to our problems with the way I communicated. I learned how to communicate in a positive way. I feel like a new person, partner, friend and husband. I feel that we will be happy with each other and get closer to each other again. Our marriage will start to grow as we implement what we learned!
I was heard which made me look at our marriage in a totally different and positive way. I learned that we had a great marriage but had to learn to communicate in a much better way."
"Before we contacted you, we loved each other, but harbored a great resentment and distance due to our constant heated battles.
We hesitated started, thinking that it would become "the blame game and finger-pointing." We considered marriage counseling, but neither one of us wanted to continue the stress, anger, resentment of blaming one another on a weekly basis for months.
Daniel Dashnaw got straight to the point of our issues without judgment or blame game - nothing negative. Hats off to him! We now have a deeper respect and knowledge of what our partner is truly thinking when we are playing a much different scenario of the situation in our own minds. Two and a half days seems like it is not enough time to get to the root of our issues, but it was.
Now we aren’t assuming what is going on in our partner's mind. We have tools to work thru our anger with one another.
Thank you, Daniel Dashnaw, for making our transition from angry to loving. The exercises and tools have given us a much brighter future."
”Our relationship was in real trouble. We were disconnected from each other and didn't know how to bridge the gap. My real fear was that it wouldn't work or my husband would be uncooperative.
Where to start? Daniel Dashnaw. was AWESOME. We appreciated his candor, honesty, kindness, sensitivity, practical - solutions based approach.
We have a much better understanding of each other and were given a set of tools that put us on the path to recovery. 1. We got to the root of our troubles, 2. we know how to repair our relationship, 3. I learned how to address my own challenges.
I am truly, deeply grateful."
Working with couples from across the globe is a privilege. I love the diversity that comes with who we love and why. I want to understand each partner's outlook on life; their sexual orientation, values, ethnicity, culture, and religious and spiritual beliefs, particularly those clients who society tends to marginalize, or who may experience themselves as disenfranchised to some degree.
In stressful situations, people say that I voice the words that others are thinking, but are fearful or uncertain how to express. I'm pragmatic. I will use whatever tools are at hand to help my clients. I want to find out what is going to work for you, especially if it is different than what you imagine might be effective. I know marriages take work.
I was also a foster parent to three troubled teens over the years.
I have a passion for couples therapy, and I'm eclectic theoretically. I've completed Levels I, II, and III of the Gottman Method Couples Therapy and an Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. I've also completed the advanced EFT Core Skills training.
I also have training in Discernment Counseling and completed a year-long internship working with distressed couples using the Bader-Pearson Developmental Model. This was in addition to my work at Couples Therapy Inc.
In fact, I've "officially" completed over 1000 hours helping couples over the last two years for my training, although unofficially I have done much more.
In 2013, I attended the Gottman/Johnson Summit in Seattle. I've also completed training with Dan Wile, Ph.D., a clinician John Gottman calls: "the greatest living marital therapist."
Recently, I spent four days training with Michelle Weiner Davis in Colorado. Michelle is one of the most important thinkers in couples therapy today. I think of Michele as both a mentor and a friend.
I see individuals and couples at Couples Therapy Inc., under the supervision of Kyle D. Killian, Ph.D., LMFT. Dr. Killian is a Marriage and Family Therapist whose books include Interracial Couples, Intimacy & Therapy: Crossing Racial Borders (Columbia University Press), and Intercultural Couples: Exploring Diversity in Intimate Relationships.
Dr. Killian also conducts research and trainings on vicarious resilience and self-care for clients in the" helping" professionals and first responders.
I also focus on working with couples suffering the impacts of the "pervasive traumas" of life: childhood sexual abuse, car accidents, physical and domestic violence, family alcoholism, serious illness, a sudden death of a loved one, sudden job loss...etc.
I am a member of the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies.
8 day Core Skills Training
One year of Supervision
under EFT-Approved Supervisor
Advanced Training in the Gottman Method
Pioneer Valley Couples Training
I have a particular interest in the special challenges of business owners in their marriages. I started, developed, and grew a business over 12 years, so I know from personal experience that entrepreneurs are primarily reliant on the ecology of their mind and emotions.
And men can have a particularly hard time expressing emotions or asking for help. That is why when trouble strikes, I know that timely support for entrepreneurs is crucial in making a difference.
I've always been interested in the dynamics of working life. I have both an undergraduate and graduate degree in Labor Studies from the University of Massachusetts at Amherst. I graduated Cum Laude in 2008.
Completing a Masters Program in Marriage and Family Therapy program at Antioch New England Graduate School was a continuation of that interest. Sigmund Freud once said that the challenge in life is balancing love and work. I've becoming an active student studying both.
I believe that the example of intimate relationships you display to your children will echo through time, resonating far into the future.
You are right now, every day, interaction by interaction, modeling and shaping the pattern of how your family loves, or struggles to love, their intimate partners for generations to come. Your joy or misery will echo through time.
I look forward to working with you.
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