You’ve built careers, families, and lives.
Now build the one thing that holds it all:
Your connection.
“I’m afraid it might not be enough.
And I’m terrified it might be too much.”
You’re not alone. And you’re right to wonder.
This isn’t a quick fix or a relationship “refresh.”
This is deep, focused work—designed for couples at a crossroads, guided with skill and care.
Not what you are expecting
Not a spa day, a vent session, or a lecture.
Some retreats offer yoga classes, group circles, and candlelit massages.
That’s not what we do.
This is private, focused work—designed for couples who are ready to get real.
We don’t believe transformation happens by the pool. It happens when both of you sit down, fully present, and say: “This matters. Let’s begin.”
Before You Arrive,
the Work Has Already Begun:
The BIG BIG Book©
We call it the BIG BIG Book©—a comprehensive, carefully designed relationship inventory that helps you name what’s working, what’s missing, and what matters most. It’s not busywork. It’s a thoughtful first step toward change.
Your therapist reads every word before you arrive—looking not just for answers, but for insight. By the time you walk in, they already know your story. And they’re ready to help you write the next chapter.
Learn more about the BIG BIG Book©→
Some couples come to fix what’s broken.
Others come to remember what’s worth saving.
Whatever your reason, what happens here can change everything.
What Your Intensive Weekend Looks Like
We structure your retreat with precision and care—so you have the time, space, and expert guidance to do meaningful, lasting work together.
Arrival
Arrive on Friday and Settle In.
Your intensive begins with a private, welcoming session—a chance to share your story, name your challenges, and remember what once brought you together.
First Night
Your intensive begins with a private, welcoming session—a chance to share your story, name your challenges, and remember what once brought you together.
Many couples say that simply beginning this process brings relief and a sense of hope.
Seeing what’s beneath the surface
Saturday: Discovery and Depth.
This is the heart of your intensive: a day for courageous honesty, clear-eyed insight, and the kind of emotional clarity that doesn’t just explain your patterns—but starts to change them.
Communication Patterns:
You’ll begin with a guided conversation around a topic where you often get stuck—while your therapist listens not just to what’s said, but how connection breaks down or builds up in the moment.
They’ll explore this recording later, studying the subtleties of your dynamic. What gets missed. What lands. What escalates.
This becomes the foundation for the deeper work ahead.
Individual Reflections
Each of you will meet privately with your therapist—not to retell the past, but to give it context.
You’ve already shared your story in the pre-retreat materials. Now, you’ll explore the relevant parts that shaped you—your family history, your values, and the experiences that still echo in your relationship.
This isn’t about keeping secrets. It’s about being seen. Not just as a partner—but as a person.
You don’t need to be ready to bare it all. You just need to be willing. Your therapist will meet you where you are, and invite what’s real to come forward—without pressure or performance.
Collaborative Feedback and Planning
Your therapist will reflect back what’s emerged—naming the patterns that keep you stuck and outlining a clear path forward.
This is thoughtful, honest feedback—grounded in compassion and focused on change.
You’ll walk away with shared insight and a direction that makes sense to both of you.
Therapeutic Work Begins
With clarity in place, the real work begins.
You’ll start practicing new ways of responding—more honest, more connected, less reactive.
Your therapist will guide the process with skill and structure. You’ll bring the willingness to try.
This isn’t about getting it perfect. It’s about showing up differently—and seeing what happens next.
Applying What You’ve Learned
Sunday: Integration & Moving Forward
Weaving insight into real change
This final day is about stitching together everything that’s surfaced—clarity, courage, connection—and shaping it into something lasting.
There’s no script. No formula. Just the real work of imagining how life together could feel… and how to keep showing up for it.
You’ll apply what you’ve learned:
• Name what’s strong.
Clarify what’s working, what deserves protection, and where your connection already shows up.
• Strengthen repair.
Learn how to de-escalate, soothe each other, and rebuild after conflict—without circling back into the same old loop.
• Plan with purpose.
Leave with a realistic, shared roadmap that reflects what actually matters—not just what sounds good.
These intensives are layered, immersive, and uninterrupted—so you can go deeper, faster, and start real change without losing momentum.
Together, you’ll begin to imagine what’s possible beyond this weekend.
“We’ve shifted—big time. The trauma’s still there, but now we see it. We’re making different choices, with tools that actually help.”
Breaks and Reflection
There’s time to pause. To breathe. To take it in.
Your therapist will encourage you to reflect aloud—to name what’s landing, what’s unclear, what’s beginning to shift.
Because good therapy isn’t passive. It’s co-created. Built in real time, from your feedback and your willingness to stay engaged.
Every Intensive Is Customized
Tailored work. Real science. Your story.
No two couples are the same. That’s why your intensive isn’t scripted—it’s structured.
We begin with what’s true for you: your challenges, your history, your hopes. From there, your therapist adapts the work in real time, drawing from decades of research-backed methods.
We use tools from the Gottman Method and other science-based approaches—but not as a formula. Your therapist brings clinical expertise and focused attention, shaping the process around what your relationship actually needs.
This is where science meets precision. And precision meets care.
Recent intensive client
I was skeptical that anything could help us—but the man who walked out of our intensive was the one I fell in love with, and the change was real.
Meet the Therapists Couples Trust
Our team is made up of seasoned specialists who’ve chosen to work with couples—and only couples. They bring:
- Decades of experience helping partners find their way back from the brink.
- Advanced training in science-based approaches, including the Gottman Method and Discernment Counseling.
- A rare ability to stay grounded in the face of strong emotion—naming what’s real without shaming what’s raw.
They don’t offer platitudes. They offer clarity.
And they know how to help couples move from hurt to healing—without wasting time, soft-pedaling hard truths, or pretending every relationship should be saved.
Is This Work Right for You?
These retreats aren’t for everyone.
They’re for couples ready to show up—fully.
This is a significant investment—and we take that seriously.
But so many couples arrive saying, “This was our last hope.”
We believe it doesn’t have to get that far.
When you address what’s hurting—with time, skill, and real support—something powerful can shift.
Not because it’s easy.
Because it’s finally focused.
Let’s Begin
Real change doesn’t come from comfort.
It comes from naming what hurts
—and deciding what matters most.