Category Archives for Overcoming Adversity
Codependent Marriage…How Addiction Therapists Failed at Couples Therapy
What is Codependent Marriage? A codependent marriage is when a partner consumes considerable financial, emotional, and physical resources on behalf of their more problem-saturated spouse. What do we mean
Continue readingHow Long Does Sadness Last? the Science of Bad Outcomes
How long do we feel sad after a serious personal setback? And what sorts of setbacks are particularly impactful? In these extraordinary times, I took a detour into new research from the field of Labor
Continue readingPersonality Change After Heart Surgery
Can Personality Change After Heart Surgery? One of the ways science-based couples therapists are different is that we stay current with research that impacts relationships. Some of this research may,
Continue readingState Dependent Learning…an Often Neglected Idea in Couples Therapy
What is State-Dependent Learning? State-Dependent Learning is perhaps the most essential idea in couples therapy…but it rarely gets discussed. What is State-Dependent Learning? Simply put, State-Dependent
Continue readingHiraeth…Timshel…and the Wolf You Feed
The Wolf You Feed Is the Wolf that Wins Today I’m going to write about two wolves, and especially the wolf you feed. I’ll also introduce two words you may not be familiar with… Hiraeth
Continue readingOur Collective Behavioral Emergency
The Behavioral Emergency That Threatens Our Survival We are in the grips of a behavioral emergency. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), a behavioral emergency is: when a client
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